Learning to Trust....Yourself

Sometimes the hardest person in the world to trust is yourself. We have all made mistakes of seeing the image someone wanted us to see and then finding out it was much like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz being told , "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!" And things really weren't as we thought. That's a hard lesson in trust.

Learning to trust again is tough. It's hard to give your trust to someone when someone else has misused it. But that's where you must believe that people are inherently good and adapt the adage that you will trust until someone proves they are untrustworthy.

You can also have your own self doubts if you feel you have been duped by someone. You may not trust your own judgment. But remember, everyone is brought into our lives to teach us a lesson, even the hard ones. If someone stole from you, hurt you, and so forth. Step out of your hurt and anger and realize what you learned. Besides some people will lie and steal.

If you had a business partner that stole from the business; you probably gleaned valuable accounting tactics from the experience and you know the warning signs something is amiss. Use that knowledge to help someone else if you see signs in a business that something fishy is going on.

A spouse that cheats, has an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or gambling is also hard and may leave you with a hurting heart and feeling wounded. But what did you learn? You learned the warning signs to look for when something is amiss. You gained true knowledge and that is something you can not get from a book - only through experience. If you see the same warning signs with someone else near you - share your experience and let them make their own decisions.

Remember, never lose trust in yourself and when a bad incident happens, step back and look at the bigger picture - what the universe wants you to learn and you may wind up secretly thanking your "teacher".
 posted by Friends of Leah